The Big Secret

Let me tell you a secret. I complain. Yes, I complain. From time to time, I gather all my insatisfactions and things that did not turn out they way I planned, and feel sorry for myself. Oh, nobody's got problems like me (an exact quote from the movie The Odd Couple - if you haven't watched it, now it's high time to do it - when Felix tells Oscar that he hates himself, and Oscar replies: 'Neah, you don't hate you. You love you, you think no one else's got problems like you').

And I can neither blame myself for all of my problems, even though there are theories that support the fact that we attract what is coming our way. No, I strongly and respectfully disagree!
I do not attract people that are afraid even of their own shadow, people that do not understand the importance of a promise, people that step over dead bodies in order to have their purpose seen, people that have anger management issues, people that offend or talk nonsense, people that believe they know it all and that's why they do it all and don't let the responsible ones do their thing (so what if they have experience?! they are all a bunch of incompetents!), people that do not even trust themselves and thus it's impossible for them to trust others...

Seeing things from an objective perspective, sometimes it's a matter of making peace with what one has around and cannot control. One can only encourage oneself with the thought that they have done their share of the deal, and if things turned out differently than expected because one was not permitted to do it one's way, than the guilt must go elsewhere.

Moreover, I also do not agree with the idea 'What can I say?! It's always going to be like this. Wherever I go, I will have to deal with the same issues. I think it's better to stay put and endure, and maybe I could learn something from this situation. It is a lesson I must learn'.
No, this is not a lesson, it's pure madness that will only have one done with their senses, frustrated and never believing that one can achieve something. I'd even go far and say that it is a lack of care for one's loved ones - why would anyone want to subject them to a defeated soul spectacle?!
I guess, most of the times the solution is to burn the bridge that ties one to a certain situation or person that makes one feel stuck. To leave is the best lesson one could ever offer oneself.

Let us not forget that we can control some of the things. It's exactly how Eleanor Roosevelt put it: No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Thus, let's complain for it's good to free ourselves from the devils emerged from so many frustrations. Let's complain and realize that we cannot stop some things from happening, and that sometimes we must calibrate our attention in order to move on. Just like in the lyric from this song: 'I'm never gonna stop the rain by complaining'.
We will walk in the rain and we will get there, where we need to be. And we will arrive even stronger!